After years of separation to my Dad, we chatted on Skype today. Because me and my boyfriend just broke up and I was suffering a severe depression. I had to talk to someone and I saw him online, we started a chat.
- My Dad is a really calm person.
Hana : Daddy
Hana : I broke up with my boyfriend, so sad
Dad : Boyfriend where?
Hana : in London
Dad : Okay that’s a short one, won’t impact your long-term life.
Hana : It’s been 8 months
Hana : not long but we lived together
Hana : Now I’m all alone lost in London, crying everyday
Dad : Just go again. You have no problem having boyfriend
Hana : but emotionally I can’t release myself
Hana : I’m afraid I’m hurt permanently
Hana : I feel desperate
Dad : Premarital dating is the education and training to learn how to deal with this
Dad : a break-up means a failure dating or you’re not good at recognizing good men, not a big deal
Dad : just put him on normal-friends list
Hana : hmm…
Dad : For women, looking for a boyfriend especially a serious one is like picking shoes, should find ones that fit your feet and don’t only care the look. The personality, does he has a big heart to contain your flaws, and tastes should be similar or can fit each other
Hana : I’m just sad because we can be happy together, and I’m lonely now. I haven’t been single for 10 years
Hana : Now I’m suffering depression
Dad : from my perspective it’s nothing, everyone should be independent.
Hana : so hard…
Dad : not necessary to undo the splashed water
Hana : (crying) I’m so weak
Dad : build your career, and make yourself strong. and find one who can match your condition
Hana : but I can’t work now, I can’t eat, and I have to cry until no tears and strength and then can sleep, but still wake up many times
Dad : Dating is a learning, a break-up is better than a divorce
Dad : break up when you should break up. change a place, come back to taiwan earlier
Dad : everything comes with a reason
Hana : okay…(crying)
My father totally entertained me. Thanks.